This article will define religious abuse, help you identify types and signs of this abuse, and provide information on how to get help.
Understanding Abuse and an Abuse of Power
First, let’s start with understanding what abuse is. Abuse refers to “a corrupt practice or custom,” “to use or treat to injure or damage,” and “to put to a wrong or improper use.”
An Abuse of Power
The most common abuse in religious institutions is an abuse of power, which leads to many forms of abuse. This abuse can present as sexual, emotional, financial, physical or verbal harm.
Types of Religious Abuse
There may be various forms of abuse that occurs within a religious or spiritual setting: When it comes to religious abuse, people can view this type of abuse as “religious doctrine.” Religious doctrine refers to a set of beliefs and/or practices that people belonging to a religion follow. If abuse is excused in the name of religious doctrine, it can lead people to overlook, normalize, or dismiss abuse.
Abuse may be linked to one’s social identity (e.g., sexual orientation,gender, race) Physical Verbal Emotional/mental Sexual Financial
Signs of Religious Abuse
Spotting the signs of abuse is essential to staying safe. First, let’s explore the general indicators of an abusive relationship.
Control and Manipulation
A sign of an abusive relationship consists of subtle forms of control (this could come in the form of gaslighting). Perhaps the abusive individual has strong opinions about the people you spend time with. For instance, religious institutions that push members into spending their time in specific ways and label people who don’t abide by the rules as sinners or not being people of faith. They could get angry if you don’t tell them what you’re doing. They might even insult you based on an outfit you’re wearing. This behavior can escalate, resulting in manipulation, sexual coercion, and physical assault.
Power Dynamics Are Present
Now, let’s consider how these signs of abuse may present in a religious context. There may be members of the church who hold a lot of power, like a preacher or bishop. Power dynamics can lead to abuse such as:
Sexual coercionFinancial abuseInstilling fear
This power can be abused by telling church members that they will be excommunicated unless they provide a sexual favor. One could be pressured into constantly donating money to their religious institution. Whenever they question the reasoning, a religious leader could begin manipulating them into thinking they are failing God. In other circumstances, someone may continually tell someone they’re disobeying God and going to Hell whenever they set boundaries.
Impact of Religious Abuse
All forms of abuse lead to trauma. However, when abuse occurs in a religious context, the trauma isn’t only related to the harm caused. Some may find themselves disconnected from their faith, making it impossible to use their spirituality as a coping tool. The impact of abuse as a whole can be devastating. For example, those who experience abuse as children are more likely to develop issues with substance abuse, severe physical illnesses, and adverse mental health outcomes. Others who experience domestic violence face similar outcomes, particularly compromised mental and physical health and decreased productivity, leading to economic insecurity.
How to Get Help
Healing is possible. Whether you feel you may have experienced religious abuse or sense that someone you love has been victimized, below are a few helplines that you can get in contact with.
Hotlines You Can Contact
Child Abuse: If you are a victim of child abuse or know someone who might be, call or text the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 to speak with a professional crisis counselor. Domestic Violence: If you or a loved one are a victim of domestic violence, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for confidential assistance from trained advocates. Sexual Assault: If you are a survivor of sexual assault, you can contact the RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 to receive confidential support from a trained staff member at a local RAINN affiliate. LGBTQIA+: If you are seeking support for issues with coming out, relationships, bullying, self-harm, and more, contact the LGBT National Hotline at 1-888-843-4564 for one-to-one peer support.
Consider Therapy
Trauma often follows abuse, so if you’re in distress it’s important to contact a licensed mental health provider.
Deconstruction in Narrative Therapy
For those who have experienced religious or spiritual abuse, it can be hard to come to terms with being harmed by a community in which you put your trust and faith. So, to begin to heal, a process known as deconstruction (typically involved in narrative therapy) can help you address what happened to you.
Affording Mental Health Treatment
If you’re concerned about your ability to afford mental health care, you still have options. Consider finding a provider through Open Path Collective, an organization that offers therapy sessions beginning at $30.
