Why Choose Family Therapy?
Our families and their individual dynamics have a profound and lifelong impact on us. They are like their whole own social system, and certainly, along with peers, the most important influence. Research continues to clearly show that family therapy is an effective treatment and that it has the power to quickly identify problem areas.
Finding a Family Therapist
Get specific therapist referrals from informed sources, including friends who’ve participated in family therapy, health care professionals, insurance companies, clergy, employee assistance programs and/or professional organizations. Make sure the therapist has specialized training in family therapy, and specifically in helping teens, such as a licensed clinical social worker or marriage and family therapist. For family therapy to be effective, the therapist needs to be a good fit with the family, someone who is perceived as knowledgeable, helpful, and able to engage your teen to talk openly. If this is not the case, ask the therapist for referrals to other therapists who may be a better fit.
Getting Family Members to Agree to Participate
Explain to all family members that their participation is needed in order to help and support your teen. Provide reassurance that therapy will take place in a safe environment. Ask each family member to commit to participating in an initial session, after which each person can decide whether to continue. A good therapist will work with all family members in the first session to gain their cooperation and continued participation.
Preparing for the First Session
Be prepared to answer the primary question that will be asked by the therapist, “What do you want to change?” Talk to other family members, especially your teenager, about their answers to this question as well. You also might want to make notes about when your teens’ troubling behavior started and any contributing factors you are aware of. Make a list of questions for the therapist such as:
What is your approach to working with families and why does it work?How long will it take to start seeing changes?What kind of success rate do you have?What can each of us do to help make this a positive experience?
Studies have shown that therapy is especially effective when the therapist uses a combination of approaches from different schools of psychotherapy based on the family’s individual needs rather than just focusing on one approach.
How Long Will Therapy Take?
Typically, family therapy lasts three to six months, but it depends on each individual family’s needs. Tougher cases may take up to a year or longer.
