Whether you’re working the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA), Al-Anon, or any other program, step 10 may be one of the least popular of all the 12 steps. Why? It’s simply no fun to be wrong and then have to admit it. But without this step, progress toward recovery can not only cease, it can actually lose ground. Here we talk about some of the benefits of step 10, along with ways you can incorporate it into your daily life.
What Is Step 10?
In step 10, personal inventory refers to emotional disturbances that can trigger a person to return to misusing drugs or alcohol. Watching for these disturbances on a daily basis—and taking a daily inventory—is an important part of recovery. Step 10 helps to keep the spiritual house clean. All humans and are bound to make mistakes and errors. Owning up to those wrongs quickly settles the issue. Rather than weighing on the conscience or building up to produce greater consequence, the mistake is corrected promptly and the problem nipped in the bud.
Benefits of Step 10
Step 10 is another process that seems on the surface to be difficult to face, but in actuality, it is as much a benefit to the one admitting the wrong as it is to the person who was wronged. By promptly facing mistakes and taking responsibility for them, it prevents situations from festering into resentments and anger that can become real problems. For example, suppose you say something insensitive or crude and as soon as it pops out of your mouth, you realize it was not the right thing to say to that person. As step 10 suggests, you apologize immediately and tell the person that you were wrong and you should never have said it. Then, you can walk away knowing you have done your part to make it right. If the other person wants to hold on to it and remain angry about it, it is their problem, not yours.
Tips and Strategies
Here some practical ways to apply step 10 to daily life: Admit when you’re wrong. The act of quickly trying to right a wrong can keep your mental house clean and prevent ego from getting in the way of step 10. Take a daily inventory. Set aside time each day to meditate and reflect on your day—both the good and bad parts. Here are a few questions to consider asking yourself:
Were you dishonest or resentful? Did you say or do anything that would warrant an apology? Have I been worrying about yesterday or tomorrow?Did I allow myself to become obsessed about anything?Have I allowed myself to become too hungry, angry, lonely, or tired?Do I suffer from any physical, mental, or spiritual problems?What steps can you take to do better tomorrow? What do I have to be grateful for today?
A Word From Verywell
Like every part of a 12-step program, step 10 takes commitment as you work daily to take personal inventory, admit when you’re wrong, and be your best self along the journey toward lasting recovery. For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.
